Just a quick post to thank everyone for all their support on a recent comment that was made under "Will it make a difference". While I know everyone has their own circumstances and their own reasons for making the decision they make, I know in my heart I have made the right choice. If I can help others that may be facing a decision that can change the rest of their lives by sharing my story and showing them hope in an unknown future, then I will continue to do so.
I never thought in a million years I would be carrying a child with DS but the overwhelming support I have received in such a short amount of time has made me realize that this is something so special. So thank you!
Hugs!
ReplyDeleteI never, ever thought I would be the mom of a child with DS either. Seriously. Sometimes it hits me afresh, and I just kind of say to myself, "Really?"
I will say that I didn't know until Benjamin was born that he has DS, and it took me about nine months until I started to NOT cry about it. I'm sure I will again, and probably even soon, but for now, I'm feeling a little better about it. You take as long as you need!!
Hope you and your family had a great Valentine's Day!
At first I was shocked and saddened at the comments made by the anonymous writer but after reading all these incredibly encouraging words in response I can't help but see them as a blessing to my sister... Which seems to be the theme of children with DS. I cannot wait to meet my first nephew and learn what he has to teach my family. Thanks to everyone who have come out to fiercely defend Adrienne and her family's decision.
ReplyDeleteAdrienne, I love you and greatly admire your courage.
Your Big Sis,
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Dear Adrienne, just wanted to let you know that I have been reading your blog and I love the fact that there are so many good and loving people in the DS community who are willing to be supportive and encouraging to others who are facing the same circumstances which they have faced themselves. You have an entire posse to "cover your back"! I, too, am so grateful for these awesome women who comment in such helpful ways. I want them to know that I am praying for them-could you tell them that? I don't know why I cannot post comments, but so far, I have not been able to. Perhaps you could "cut and paste" my thoughts from your e-mail. If you have not read "The Memory Keeper's Daughter" yet, you should. It takes awhile for it to actually get to the encouraging part, but it will, I promise! There was a memorable quote from it that I consider worth sharing-it goes like this..."What would happen, they conjectured, if they simply went on assuming their children would do everything. Perhaps not quickly. Perhaps not by the book. But what if they simply erased those growth and development charts, with their precise, constricting points and curves? What if they kept their expectations but erased the time line? What harm could it do? Why not try?" Keep in mind that this story took place in the 1960's before early intervention and therapy. I also just finished reading "Expecting Adam". I am excited to welcome Bennett to our family and I know that he is a gift from God to all of us. Let us know how the visit to CHOP goes. You are loved, Mom
ReplyDeleteAdrienne...you and I totally see eye to eye...having a prenatal diagnosis, knowing the high termination rate is still so tough for me. I gave two presentations this week at a college and it went great! The number ONE thing they said they would remember from my presentation is that WE HAD A CHOICE...and we CHOOSE to take this wonderful journey. That warmed my heart so much. Granted all of these women are going into the Special Needs career, but to know I was able to touch others who may turn around and touch more. You are an inspiration to me and I am so excited to meet your little Bennett...let us know how CHOP goes...
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