I recently came across a blog from another blog that I highly recommend you check out. Her emotions are honest, pure and raw. The specific post that I was moved by (although I'm finding that I love all of her posts) was the story of her daughter's birth. Please check it out when you get a chance.
When I saw the pictures of her beautiful daughter I immediately knew her "secret". I can spot it pretty much any time now. It brought tears to my eyes seeing her because I've grown to love those eyes. Those almond shape eyes, the eyes that I once held a grudge towards, after just finding out about Bennett.
Almost every person with Down syndrome has these almond shape eyes, in a way it's how they share their secret with the rest of the world without saying a word. I remember reading blogs before Bennett was born about how the parents thought this shape was beautiful and I didn't quite get it then. And then I met Bennett. Of course I knew Bennett's secret before he was born but as soon as I saw him for the first time, I got it.
And I was in love.
Those first days when I was just getting to know Bennett I remember thinking I love his eyes, yes they are different but different is okay, in fact it's more than okay. Having Bennett has really shown me to enjoy the differences in life. He does not look like most babies and that's perfectly okay.
Now when I look at his eyes, his perfectly almond shaped eyes, they make me smile. They are dark, chocolate brown, just like his daddy's and his sister's eyes but also because they remind me that he's just a little bit different from the rest of us but different is truly beautiful.
I know exactly what you mean. Every time I hold Alivia I look at her eyes as she watches me and just smile to myself. I just love her beautiful eyes and how special she is. I am so honored to be her mother:)
ReplyDeleteOMG...I just posted about Kelle too...we must have found it at the same time. I was moved to TEARS reading it. I love her post and I LOVE those eyes....
ReplyDeleteNice post! Here's my perspective of the eyes... when Matthew was born, I got to hold him immediately after he was born. We didn't know that he had DS. I looked at his face and remember remarking how he had my eyes and nose. I think this made it harder for me to hear the doc's suspicions of Matthew having DS. I think the doc second guessed himself too when he saw me for the first time as I have small, slanty eyes. I remember thinking "There's nothing different about his eyes. They're just like mine."
ReplyDeleteReading all of these recent posts has really been an emotional journey for me. I was already crying before I came to your blog after reading the poem Nella's grandpa left in the comment section. :) And then your words and cute pictures kept the tears flowing. We are all so very blessed to have this experience in our lives. I really feel like others are missing out on such an incredible experience and journey. We are so lucky! I loved the comment you left on her blog too--encouragement and hope. I found her blog by a total coincidence. I went on twitter (which I never do) and someone had posted it with the link. I never click on the links but since I had a few minutes I thought I'd check it out. I've never read anything that hit all of my feelings, thoughts and emotions as clearly as her blog did. I had to share it with everyone! I have no idea if she already had a large following before but one of her friends said she is gonna need to hire an agent now. And I believe it! I want to go back and read all of her posts from the beginning. I love this blogging community and the support it gives to all of us. xoxo
ReplyDeleteGreat post. He does have spectacular eyes. I love Luke's chin- his most Ds feature in my opinion, but one of my favs :)
ReplyDeleteI could stare at Lucy's eyes forever. They're that beautiful almond shape and this clear, magnificent gray-blue. Stunning. We're so lucky, aren't we?
ReplyDeleteThat was such a beautiful post. It was right from your heart. I had not seen Bennett's pictures from when he was first born, he is gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteHe is so stinking handsome. Every new picture of him is absolutely amazing to me. Well said.
ReplyDeleteI, too, love Bennett's eyes. He is a doll! =)
ReplyDeleteThe secret is in the eyes...{the shape}, like you said but the secret is also "in the eyes".
ReplyDeleteThere is something deep inside the eyes of a "special" child that I have yet to explain properly. One day I will.
For now I will just look into them and see that secret little something that not everyone else is lucky enough to see, like we are.
We didn't know Emily was going to have DS and you are so right...before we were told my husband and I both recognized that her eyes were slanty...as we put it then. Now I just love looking at her almond shaped blue eyes!
ReplyDeleteI read her blog too. It's amazing.
ReplyDeleteBecause we didn't know 100% if Em had DS(although in my heart I knew) I insisted that I get her immediately after she was born. I wanted to be the first one to look in to her eyes.
Love that blog!
ReplyDeleteI love Claire's eyes and mouth too. You can see her "secret" in them,and they are the parts of her I find I love the most.
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