Yep, someone asked me that today while I helped in the church nursery. I was a little surprised but to give her credit there were two of the biggest 4-5 month old boys I'd ever seen in there and they were the same size if not a tad bigger than Bennett. Or maybe my baby sizes and ages has been slightly skewed since having Bennett. So I know he's small for his age but he's almost 21 pounds! 4 months, really??
Anyways, as I watched Bennett next to these other boys, these "typical" boys, for the first time, I saw the differences. I saw how big their hands were compared to Bennett's. I saw their giant feet and how big their ears were, almost looking like old men's ears next to my Bennett's petite ears. But then I saw the differences that I've been sheltered from for some time. I saw that in fact, my son does have Down syndrome and he is delayed. And it hurt. I'm not going to lie. It's not like I started crying or anything but I watched them as they put weight on their legs with ease, as they manipulated the toys and easily mimicked certain actions. They felt sturdy and solid. And it's not like they were doing more things than Bennett, it's just that they were doing things that took so long for Bennett to do and how sturdy they were on their legs really surprised me. They weren't sitting up but I knew it wouldn't be long before they did. And I knew their parents wouldn't think much about it. I know I didn't, with the girls. They hit their milestones and next thing you knew, they were hitting another one. But not with Bennett.
It was just a big reminder I guess. I'm not around other babies too much and if I am, I don't get a solid hour of one on one time with them like I did today. I wonder what the other women in there thought. "So what is he, 4 months old?" the woman asked. "No, actually he just turned a year, he's just little." I replied. Were they dying to ask- "Does he have Down syndrome?" Surely they could see it. I realize it's obvious now. But no one asked if he was crawling or walking to my surprise, they just offered him toys and smiled, treated him like the other boys.
Although I was sad for a little bit, I realized I didn't really wish for Bennett to be like them, the other boys. Bennett is who he is and he just wouldn't be himself without that extra chromosome. So yes, his hands and feet may be smaller. And he has petite ears (although perfectly shaped and proportionate to his head I must add)-lol. He's shorter than babies his age and he's not quite as sturdy and solid. He doesn't do all the things most 1 year olds do but I love him how he is. He's just perfect to me. He's our little buddy, and we just couldn't have him any other way.